Happiness is the highest from of health

Depression and the Subconscious Mind

From the statistics above it is clear that the medical profession is also suffering from a disorder of perception like many of their patients. When it comes to mental health they do not want to look at themselves for fear that they might have to change their directions. Yet unless they realize that we are hypnotic creatures and our perceptions create physiological and biochemical in us, all our research work will only prove to be just chasing shadows not the substance.

We must acknowledge the fact that our hopes and fears and desires affect our perception of reality. Our perceptions lead us to think in a particular way thus affecting our thinking. Our thinking process is hypnotic. It is made up of words and sentences. It influences our subconscious mind positively or negatively depending on the type of words we use; meanings or beliefs do not matter. Now our mental and physical health depends on our immune system which is directly under subconscious control. So it is the subconscious mind that is the elephant in the room and the way we influence it is what we should be addressing.

As I have said before, how one feels at a given moment depends on how one is stimulating one’s subconscious mind. When you are happy it means you are stimulating it positively; when you are depressed and miserable it means you are stimulating it negatively.

If we look around us every one of us is an ego tripper and a time traveller. From the moment one is born, one starts acquiring an identity. One is given a name and then everything we do becomes I, Me and Mine. This self-centred action leads to possessiveness which in turn leads to thinking in terms of “My house, my car, my wife, my husband, my kids etc.” One does not realize that when we go through life this way acquiring wealth, knowledge, power etc. it is a self-isolating process. This process leads to building a mental wall round us. On day sooner or later, depending on the circumstances and one’s conditioning, unless an individual becomes aware of it, one will surely find oneself totally isolated, totally surrounded by this wall and totally alone.

This is the dark side we refer to when our perceptions create a very gloomy picture of reality where there is total despair and everything in life becomes meaningless. This of course is a distorted picture of reality which an individual acquires through self-centred thinking and lack of self-knowledge. Please understand that our thinking process is a hypnotic process and we are constantly hypnotizing ourselves. Under this hypnotic spell the ego is liable to talk himself or herself into taking extremely stupid actions.

If any of you find yourselves in this precarious situation, my advice is not to take yourself too seriously. The wall you have built around yourself is of your own making. It is in your mind. You can break it down and go beyond it just by becoming aware of it in the first instance. Awareness is the weapon you use to dehypnotize yourself. Once you can make that perception that it is a self-created barrier it will melt away. It is a wall you have built through ignorance. You are a part of this universe and the timeless reality. As you clear up your perceptions, you will realize that is there is a whole world beyond the cocoon you have created. However if you withdraw into your shell, you will only be reinforcing that wall.

Verbalizing our feelings is a habit we have acquired in our thinking process. We use words and sentences to express our feelings and as a means of communication. Now these words can have a powerful hypnotic effect on the way we feel about a situation.

Please let me explain how words intensify or give form to your feelings. Suppose you are very angry. You start expressing your anger using words such as “I hate that so and so etc… ” You will find that if you keep using negative words and language you can become quite emotionally upset, and liable to act in a destructive way. But if you did not verbalize your feelings and just tried to understand and stay with them, you will find that they have no life of their own. The feelings will just melt away. Yes it is the words that activate your feelings. Try to maintain the feeling of anger without saying anything in your mind and see how long you can maintain it. You will find that without words your feelings have no substance.

Another habit of the ego is to keep analyzing the negative experience you may have had. Well my friend if you keep analyzing the situation, you will become even more miserable. This is because once you use words it gives form to your feelings and it will activate the thinking process even more. You will be going round and round in circles like a squirrel in a cage. So my advice is stop analyzing. If someone does not want to talk you, don’t ask yourself why etc. You should say in your mind “If you don’t want to talk to me, I have no time for you either. Good bye and good luck.” You will be amazed to find yourself instantly free of the negative feelings.

As we are all ego trippers and time travelers, sooner or later we can expect the dark curtain descending on any one of us out of the blue. If you think you love someone and it is causing you heartache, clearly your perception is distorted because love never makes one miserable. Love always makes one happy. It is your selfishness and your ego that is making you miserable. Learn to understand what love is. When you; love you are always a winner because when you love you never possess a person. However if you possessed someone, it is not love. You will have a feeling of loss attached to it. Love and possession cannot coexist. That is the fundamental law of the mind. Please learn to understand what love is and how your ego tries to manipulate it. Love cannot be manipulated. Once you clear up your perceptions of love and possession, you will be amazed to find how open and free you will feel.

Do not depend on the world to make you happy. You have to make yourself happy. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and regretting. Life is never meant for regrets. All the experiences in life, the good and the bad, are all good for you. They teach you a lesson in life and should make you a better person. Learn from those experiences, make amends and move on. Make the whole world your oyster not only your little shell.

So my message to the medical profession and to all the people who are suffering from depression, anxiety etc. is very clear. If you don’t wish to become one of the statistics in a mental health survey like above, please do not ignore the elephant in the room. Be willing to change your perceptions and harmonize with your subconscious mind. Ignoring the facts will not make them disappear.

Gist of Autism

Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) is the full name. There are mild, moderate, and severe symptoms, hence why it is a spectrum disorder. Behavior Analysis is a field within psychology that focuses on understanding behavior and how it is affected by the environment. The use of scientifically-validated teaching techniques to bring about meaningful and positive change in behavior is known as Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA). Positive change is correcting the symptoms of ASD.

Positive change in behavior are: (but not limited to) increase socialization, increase communication skills, decrease problematic and repetitive behaviors

Some of the common repetitive behaviors displayed in individuals with ASD are aggression, self-injury, bizarre speech, and hand flapping.

Although Autism is typically a life long condition, it is beneficial that individuals receive interventions and therapies. There becomes a concern when individuals don’t achieve certain developmental milestones. Learning to talk, walk, eat independently, and play with others are things that an individual should start learning between the ages of birth and 3 years old. Overall, Autism means that person has developmental delays in some way(s).

Someone who has Autism may need more support to develop certain skills. The earlier interventions are the better. Interventions can start as early as 18 months (with some agencies) to 2-3 years old. Individuals with Autism with have different abilities and limitations. It is important that each individual is treated accordingly and has the best interventions and therapies for their needs.

Schizophrenia

Schizophrenia is a serious medical condition which affects the individual’s normality how he/she thinks, speak, feels and act. The individual who encounters schizophrenia finds difficulty in correlating the imaginary and the reality. The biggest misconception among the people, confuse schizophrenia with the split personality or multiple personality disorder actually, both are the different streams.

Types of schizophrenia

With respect to the symptoms and behaviors, schizophrenia can be classified into 5 types as follows.
Paranoid schizophrenia: The most common subcategory of schizophrenia is paranoid schizophrenia. In this type, the individual conduces to lose the touch with the real world by struggling with heavy fear and anxiety.
Hebephrenic Schizophrenia: Disorganized schizophrenia is the other name of this type. The individual encounters illogical thinking and actions. The actions are highly triggered by environmental factors.
Catatonic Schizophrenia: It is a rare type of schizophrenia where the individual encounters group of symptoms, that influence and develop schizophrenia. The main symptom is Stupor – no response and movement in the individual’s body and mind.
Undifferentiated Schizophrenia: The suffering individual might not fit into a specified category. Rather displays both positive and negative symptoms oscillates over the period of time.
Residual Schizophrenia: In this type, the individual might develop the long-term history of negative symptoms.

Symptoms of schizophrenia

  • Illogical thinking
  • Delusions
  • Hallucinations
  • Disorganized speech
  • Stupor- No response and movement in the individual’s body and mind
  • Waxy flexibility – if an individual’s body part is placed in a position it will not be moved until someone else moves it
  • Difficulty feeling pleasure
  • False, fixed beliefs

Causes of Schizophrenia

The exact cause of schizophrenia is not fully understood. But according to the researchers, some factors might trigger an individual to develop schizophrenia they are:
Environmental factor: Studies suggest that including the factors like depression and stress there are few other factors might also develop schizophrenia such as low oxygen level while birth, parental loss, and high rage.
Chemical imbalance: Experts displays that abnormalities in the brain chemicals might also pave the chance of developing schizophrenia.
Substance abuse: Drugs such as LSD, weed, marijuana, and alcohols can also possible make an individual schizophrenic. There is a high chance of symptoms of hallucination, abnormal emotions, and disorganized thinking.
Genetic: Do you know the chance of encountering schizophrenia is 50% higher if the individual is a twin. Genetic is also a factor that plays a vital role in schizophrenia.

Treatment options

A proper treatment is the only way to overcome schizophrenia which can lead a productive life. Treatment follow-up involves a combination of medication, therapies, and counseling sessions. Adhering to the treatment plan can help in the reducing the worsening of the schizophrenia condition and also helps in preventing the risk factors like relapses.

Handle Narcissistic Abuse

The Motivation for Narcissistic Abuse

Remember that narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) and abuse exist on a continuum, ranging from silence to violence. Rarely will a narcissist take responsibility for his or her behavior. Generally, they deny their actions, and augment the abuse by blaming the victim. Particularly, malignant narcissists aren’t bothered by guilt. They can be sadistic and take pleasure in inflicting pain. They can be so competitive and unprincipled that they engage in anti-social behavior. Don’t confuse narcissism with anti-social personality disorder.

The objective of narcissistic abuse is power. They act with the intent to diminish or even hurt other people. The most important thing to remember about intentional abuse is that it’s designed to dominate you. Abusers’ goals are to increase their control and authority, while creating doubt, shame, and dependency in their victims. They want to feel superior to avoid hidden feelings of inferiority. Understanding this can empower you. Like all bullies, despite their defenses of rage, arrogance, and self-inflation, they suffer from shame. Appearing weak and humiliated is their biggest fear. Knowing this, it’s essential not to take personally the words and actions of an abuser. This enables you to confront narcissistic abuse.

Mistakes in Dealing with Abuse

When you forget an abuser’s motives, you may naturally react in some of these ineffective ways:

  • Appeasement. If you placate to avoid conflict and anger, it empowers the abuser, who sees it as weakness and an opportunity to exert more control.
  • Pleading. This also shows weakness, which narcissists despise in themselves and others. They may react dismissively with contempt or disgust.
  • Withdrawal. This is a good temporary tactic to collect your thoughts and emotions, but is not an effective strategy to deal with abuse.

Confronting Abuse Effectively

Allowing abuse damages your self-esteem. Thus, it’s important to confront it. That doesn’t mean to fight and argue. It means standing your ground and speaking up for yourself clearly and calmly and having boundaries to protect your mind, emotions, and body. Before you set boundaries, you must:

  • Know Your Rights. You must feel entitled to be treated with respect and that you have specific rights, such as the right to your feelings, the right not to have sex if you decline, a right to privacy, a right not to be yelled at, touched, or disrespected. If you’ve been abused a long time (or as a child), your self- esteem likely has been diminished. You may no longer trust yourself or have confidence.
  • Be Strategic. Know what you want specifically, what the narcissist wants, what your limits are, and where you have power in the relationship. You’re dealing with someone highly defensive with a personality disorder. There are specific strategies to having an impact.
  • Set Boundaries. Boundaries are rules that govern the way you want to be treated. People will treat you the way you allow them to. You must know what your boundaries are before you can communicate them. This means getting in touch with your feelings, listening to your body, knowing your rights, and learning assertiveness. They must be explicit.

Get Support

To respond effectively requires support. Without it, you may languish in self-doubt and succumb to abusive disinformation and denigration. It’s challenging to change your reactions, let alone those of anyone else. Expect pushback when you stand up for yourself. This is another reason why support is essential. You will need courage and consistency. Whether or not the narcissist makes changes, you’ll get tools to protect yourself and raise your self-worth that will improve how you feel whether you stay or leave. CoDA meetings and psychotherapy provide guidance and support.

Cooling Meals For Summer

A salad is the perfect cool, healthy and light meal for any hot day of the year. Not only does it take little energy to make, but it is also very light on your stomach. Your body will thank you for eating a salad in more ways than one. You will be loading up on your vitamins and minerals from all of the fresh veggies you add.

Instead of waiting until Winter to have a bowl of soup, have you considered making cold soups? A Spanish gazpacho is a perfect example of a cold, raw soup with raw tomatoes and other vegetables.This cold soup will cool you down, hydrate you and nourish your body, which makes it perfect for a hot day.

Fruit salad doesn’t always go as a full meal, but it’s ideal for a snack, dessert or side dish. Fruit salads taste delicious, are cold, raw, and they are healthy for you. You could include fruits like pineapple, grapes, banana, or apple. A true summer fruit that you must add to your fruit salad is watermelon. This fruit screams summer, and it’s one of the most hydrating fruits as well. Hydration is
crucial for hot summer days.

Veggie Tortillas. Fill your tortillas (or lettuce leaves) with raw or chilled veggies and herbs for a cooling summer version of tacos. Simple and quick, this makes a great lunch for your summer lunch breaks at work. Cucumber strips, spiralized carrots and zucchini make this meal idea delicious.

These foods are perfect for all the hot days that are yet to come, and all of them are simple and quick to make. On these warm summer days, the last thing you want to do is stand over a hot stove. So, with these meals you can enjoy your summer while making it a little easier for yourself, and you can still have delicious food on the table each day.

Annoying OCD Habits

The main deal with obsessive compulsive behavior is that it is constant, invasive and controlling. However, there are natural ways and medical ways in which it can be lessened; ways that make a person’s life more enjoyable and happy.

One natural way is talking with someone they trust. For example, if a person knows that he or she will need to go to a social event, one that they don’t want to go to, they can share this anxiety with that person and get helpful advice on what to do at the social event.

Another way to lessen O.C.D. is to practice “mindful thinking.” Mindful thinking is when you are engaged in something you don’t like, you focus on what is going on during the event. In other words, you don’t focus on what can go wrong but on what you see at the event.

In addition, another way to lessen O.C.D. is deep breathing. Deep breathing, when practiced several times during the day, when needed, can calm the mind and body down. The most effective way to do this is to take a deep breath through your nose, hold it for a few seconds and then let it out slowly through your mouth. Do this several times until you feel calm. To achieve maximum effect, breathe in slowly–for seven to ten times through your nose and exhale slower through your mouth. Soon, you will feel relaxed and calm.

Keep in mind; O.C.D. symptoms can also be lessened by talking with a mental health professional or from reading the Bible or books that offer guidelines and tips on how to overcome this mental health challenge.

O.C.D., like some mental health conditions, can be lessened and in some cases, can be eliminated. However, it does take time, effort, patience and a desire to feel better. Whenever possible, the source of anxiety, should be dealt with; however, one should be cautious on confronting any source of anxiety.

Yoga Asanas Induce Better Sleep

Virasana (also known as hero poses)

Just sit in a comfortable position with your hips resting on your heels, involving a slight stretching of your ankles and knees. Stretching your spine upside and taking deep breaths in this position will help clear your mind and slow down your heart rate.

Bitilasana and Marjaryasana (cow and cat pose)

Without getting up from the virasana, you just need to roll in the forward position on the support of your knees and hands. For bitilasana, you have to pull your lower back down with your tailbone and head pointing upwards. For the Marjaryasana, you just have to do the reverse, your tailbone and head tilt downwards while your spine is arched upwards like the shape of letter C. Just keep alternating between these positions for as much time as you want to.

Balasana

Start with sinking of your hips on your heels while your chest stays settled between your thighs. Here, your toes would be on one another while your thighs can lay apart as much as you find comfortable. Now, rest your forehead on the floor and start making walk like movement from your fingers stretching the arms as well. If you want to have a face massage like feeling, you can even roll your face from side to side.

Viparita Karni

This position can also shed light on the question how yoga asanas induce better sleep. Lie down on the floor with your hips touching the wall so that you can stretch your leg vertically up on the wall. This asana give a nice stretch to your hamstring. It loosens and relaxes the muscle in the lower section of your body, helping you get a better sleep.

Ananda Balasana

Bringing your knees closer to the chest, hold your toes with your fingers. Now you have to push your heels towards the ceiling while your hips should be on the floor. This asana is very good for relaxing your abdomen as well as your spine.

Difference Between Carrier Oils and Essential Oils

The existence of fatty acids

Carrier oils contain fatty acids and will leave an oil stain on paper or cloth.

Essential oils don’t contain fatty acids and will usually not leave stains on paper or cloth. (Note: More viscous, darker-colored ones might because of their color.)

The reaction with plastic

Carrier oils are usually sold in plastic bottles. This is generally fine if they’re not stored for too long.

Essential oils, however, will dissolve plastic. This is one reason why reputable vendors will never use plastic packaging. They will use glass or metal instead to avoid oil contamination.

The rate of evaporation

Carrier oils are what we call fixed oils. They don’t really evaporate at room temperature.

Essential oils are volatile oils. They evaporate (diffuse) at room temperature.

The aroma strength

As carrier oils are extracted from the “fatty” parts of plants, they have very little aroma or at most, they will have just a slight nutty smell. If you detect a strong (and rather unpleasant) smell in your bottle of carrier oil, it probably means it has turned bad (see #7 below).

Comparatively, essential oils are made up of volatile compounds obtained from the aromatic parts of plants. Hence they have much stronger, and usually much more pleasant, scents.

The capacity to turn bad

Carrier oils turn rancid over time. And you can easily tell that they’ve turned bad from the smell.

Essential oils don’t turn rancid. But they do oxidize over time.

Oxidation causes all oils to gradually lose their therapeutic value and become less effective. Certain oils can also become more toxic due to oxidation.

Hence, both types of oils should be properly stored and used within their shelf lives.